In the spirit of authenticity, it's time for me to get real about how I feel about social media. There was a time when I loved it. I still love creating inspiring content. I am grateful for the tribe I found of like-minded peeps. But, I was also addicted to the feeling of seeing my numbers grow and how many likes I could get per a post. I developed an excellent strategy to build a platform with authenticity and integrity. I never bought followers or likes. It's just not my style. But, in the last year, I haven't been feeling it as much. The more and more clients I took on, the more social media coaching sessions I did, the less I wanted to be on social media. Don't get me wrong, my tips work. They worked for me and have worked for hundreds of people. I was just tired of it.
I stopped scrolling through my newsfeed because honestly, Instagram ruined that for me by changing to an algorithm thinking they were showing me what I wanted to see. I stopped searching through hashtags trying to bring people back to my profile. About two years ago I stopped following people back. My numbers were stagnant, and my engagement suffered. It bothered me. I felt people were paying attention to my numbers less than they were enjoying the content. That may be true because honestly, I was doing the same things. I could tell when people bought followers and paid for likes. It made me feel sad that this is what our social world has come to. My worth is not dependent on a like or a follow. Everyone will see me who is meant to.
"She's a social media coach? Her numbers have stayed the same for a year!" That sentenced played in my head over and over regardless if anyone thought that or not.
I was tired of seeing all the coaches selling me their packages and their retreats. It was one after the other in my newsfeed. That may be on me because, I get it, everyone has to hustle as a life or spiritual coach. It doesn't come easy. But, I never wanted to make anyone feel sold to. If I did, I apologize. There were people in my newsfeed that I had no clue who they were. I followed them because they followed me way back in the day when I started. It seemed like the decent thing to do.
I found myself taking more and more social media detoxes. I maintained my client's accounts but not my own. I decided to stop caring about the likes and the followers. I went from posting seven days a week to three days a week. I stopped being strategic about what time of day to post and how many and what hashtags to use. I decided once I posted to get off for the rest of the day and not "check" to see how many likes my posts got. I still struggle with this. And, seriously no offense to anyone, I unfollowed about 600 people on Instagram who weren't engaging in my posts anyway and people who I didn't know. I am sure I lost followers because of it, but it didn't matter to me. I also unfriended 600 people on Facebook who I never met. I unliked about 50 business pages and left most groups.
Why? I wanted to see realness in my newsfeeds. I wanted to see people who I have had authentic conversations with, people I have hugged or at least talked on the phone with, and who I knew their dogs and children's names. I wanted to enjoy social media again. I don't mean to hurt anyone's feelings. I just needed to take care of me.
Finally, last month I decided to end my social media coaching business. I will no longer have the title "Social Media Coach for Spiritual Entrepreneurs."
The people who I have told, have been shocked! Me, I am not shocked. I am happy with my decision. It is the most significant act of self-care I have ever done. My fingers were going numb and swelling. I wasn't sleeping because of all the screen time. It was a good run, but all good things must come to an end.
Thank you to everyone who supported me on this journey. I am so grateful for my social media family... all the people I connected with in one way or another. I wish everyone the best... nothing but the best.
What's up for me? I will continue to give email angel card readings and write blogs. I decided to change my blog name to Authentic Words, where I promise to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I know people love my authenticity, so no need to change that. :)
How will I earn for my great work? That will be in the next blog!